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<channel><title><![CDATA[Solve & Share - Home]]></title><link><![CDATA[http://www.brianwansink.com/home]]></link><description><![CDATA[Home]]></description><pubDate>Tue, 30 Jun 2026 06:41:35 -0700</pubDate><generator>Weebly</generator><item><title><![CDATA[The Letter Eisenhower Never Had to Send]]></title><link><![CDATA[http://www.brianwansink.com/home/the-letter-eisenhower-never-had-to-send]]></link><comments><![CDATA[http://www.brianwansink.com/home/the-letter-eisenhower-never-had-to-send#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Tue, 23 Jun 2026 10:29:40 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.brianwansink.com/home/the-letter-eisenhower-never-had-to-send</guid><description><![CDATA[       To commemorate D-Day a couple weeks ago, my wife and I went to see the movie Pressure.&nbsp;It's a WWII movie about Eisenhower's decision to launch a potentially cataustraphic&nbsp;D-Day invasion&nbsp;in the face of conflicting weather reports. "Pressure" relates to both nail-biting pressure as well as atmospheric pressure. &nbsp;As June 6, 1944 approached, Eisenhower (the Allied Commander) faced one of the biggest "Do we take an umbrella or do we stay home" decisions in history. &nbsp;Ne [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="http://www.brianwansink.com/uploads/5/5/8/1/55817101/published/pressure-poster.jpeg?1782218548" alt="Picture" style="width:432;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div class="paragraph"><br /><font size="6"><font color="#24678d">To commemorate D-Day a couple weeks ago, my wife and I went to see the movie <strong><em>Pressure.</em></strong>&nbsp;It's a WWII movie about Eisenhower's decision to launch a potentially cataustraphic&nbsp;D-Day invasion&nbsp;in the face of conflicting weather reports. "Pressure" relates to both nail-biting pressure as well as atmospheric pressure. &nbsp;<br /><br />As June 6, 1944 approached, Eisenhower (the Allied Commander) faced one of the biggest "Do we take an umbrella or do we stay home" decisions in history. &nbsp;Nearly 160,000 Allied troops were preparing to cross the English Channel. The weather was uncertain and the two American and the British meteorologists had exact opposite predictions and personalities. Weather conditions might or might not be deteriorating. Delay the invasion and the operation could have to be postponed for weeks. Launch it under poor conditions and thousands &nbsp;could die before hitting the beach and then retreating.<br /><br />You and I will never decide the fate of nations, but all of us know what it feels like to make a decision when the stakes feel high. &nbsp;What I find instructive &nbsp;is what Eisenhower wrote after he had made his decision to go (during a brief weather clearing) but before the Normandy invasion had actually began.&nbsp;<br /><br />Between the time of this "Let's go" order and the time when the boats actually reached the French coastline, Eisenhower wrote&nbsp;two notes to send to the press -- depending on what happened. &nbsp;<br /><br />&#8203;One said, "We did it as a team, Yahoo!" &nbsp;The second said "I screwed up, and it was my fault and mine alone."<br /><br />Not the fault of the two crazy weather guys. Not the intelligence reports. Not the generals. Not the troops. Mine alone.<br /><br />Since you are reading this in English, you know the invasion succeeded, and the "I screwed up" note never had to be sent.</font></font></div>  <div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0px;margin-right:0px;text-align:center"> <a href='http://www.brianwansink.com/uploads/5/5/8/1/55817101/607257604-1496590409140984-7471424438062948240-n_orig.jpg' rel='lightbox' onclick='if (!lightboxLoaded) return false'> <img src="http://www.brianwansink.com/uploads/5/5/8/1/55817101/607257604-1496590409140984-7471424438062948240-n_orig.jpg" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%">"Our landings in the Cherbourg-Havre area have failed to gain a satisfactory foothold and I have withdrawn the troops. My decision to attack at this time and place was based upon the best information available. The troops, the air and the Navy did all that bravery and devotion to duty could do. If any blame or fault attaches to the attempt it is mine alone."</div> </div></div>  <div class="paragraph"><br /><font size="6"><span style="color:rgb(36, 103, 141)">The idea of someone saying "The success was a team effort vs. the failure was my fault" isn't common. &nbsp;It's much more common to see people do this in reverse. &nbsp;"The success is because of my awesomeness. &nbsp;The failure is because of him and her."</span><br /><br /><span style="color:rgb(36, 103, 141)">When our kids get a disappointing grade, they say the teacher's bad. When someone gets fired, the problem's with their incompetent boss or their horrible company. When a marriage ends, it's the spouse.&nbsp;</span><br /><br /><span style="color:rgb(36, 103, 141)">We are acrobatically creative when we explain why our disappointments belong to someone else. Yet grow when we ask &nbsp;a different question: What part of this belongs to me?</span><br /><br /><span style="color:rgb(36, 103, 141)">The student who blames the teacher learns zippo. The student who asks how they can prepare differently is course-correcting. The employee who blames every boss keeps circles around the drain of frustration. The one who asks what they could improve might still get fired but they do better at their next job. If thinking honestly about how you can improve after a setback doesn't cause you to leap ahead, it at least helps you become a better person.</span><br /><br /><span style="color:rgb(36, 103, 141)">There's a funny song by Tim Wilson that has one line that says: "Been married 8 times? &nbsp;Hey, it might be you."</span></font><br /><br /><font color="#24678d" size="6">Most of us won't face a D-Day sized decision this week. But we'll all face smaller moments that test our character. A mistake at work. A screw-up at home. A goal or field goal we missed by a mile. In those moments, we can write our acrobatically creative explanation, or we can write our own Eisenhower "My Bad" note.<br /><br />But this isn't a "I'm a loser" note. &nbsp;It's an ownership note.&nbsp;</font></div>  <div><div style="height: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 100%;"></div> <hr class="styled-hr" style="width:100%;"></hr> <div style="height: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 100%;"></div></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Charles Turner's Super Power (and it's not his 'stache)]]></title><link><![CDATA[http://www.brianwansink.com/home/charles-turners-super-power-and-its-not-his-stache6664106]]></link><comments><![CDATA[http://www.brianwansink.com/home/charles-turners-super-power-and-its-not-his-stache6664106#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Thu, 28 May 2026 07:00:00 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.brianwansink.com/home/charles-turners-super-power-and-its-not-his-stache6664106</guid><description><![CDATA[       A while back I had an interesting conversation with a person who was recounting the "Big Break" he had in life. &nbsp;What's much more rare is to hear about successful people who mainly only had "Bad Breaks."Meet Charles Henry Turner. &nbsp;Many discoveries about how insects communicate with each other and how they think come from the crazy-creative shoe-string experiments and research papers of Turner. &nbsp;Born in 1967 -- right after the Civil War -- Turner was a standout zoology stude [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="http://www.brianwansink.com/uploads/5/5/8/1/55817101/charles-turner-photo-orig_orig.jpg" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div class="paragraph"><font size="5">A while back I had an interesting conversation with a person who was recounting the "Big Break" he had in life. &nbsp;What's much more rare is to hear about successful people who mainly only had "Bad Breaks."<br /><br />Meet Charles Henry Turner. &nbsp;Many discoveries about how insects communicate with each other and how they think come from the crazy-creative shoe-string experiments and research papers of Turner. &nbsp;<br /><br />Born in 1967 -- right after the Civil War -- Turner was a standout zoology student at the University of Cincinnati and is thought to be the first African-American PhD graduate from the Univeristy of Chicago.<br /><br />Despite a strong start, he was never able to find a University professorship and instead taught high school biology in St. Louis until passing away at 56.<br /><br />Interestingly, there's not any record of him complaining about being overlooked, passed over, or not having a &nbsp;Big Break. &nbsp; He must have been too busy. &nbsp;For 30 years, he kept his passion, and he stayed the course of the mission he saw for himself.<br /><br />For these 30 years he continued to think to ask out-of-the-box research questions -- like, can insects hear? can they think? and how do they solve new problems? &nbsp;Then he'd design of ingenious experiments to test his ideas. &nbsp;He would then spend his nights collecting data, and he'd spend his weekends writing and publishing scientific papers in some of the best journals in his field. &nbsp;Still, no university every hired him.<br /><br />No big break, mainly bad breaks. Still he didn't complain, he kept working, and he kept his "eyes on the prize."<br /><br />That seems to be his super power and why 100 years later he stands so tall above all of those who were hired instead of him. &nbsp;<br /><br />&#8203;There's an inspiring article on him in the Feb 2024 American Scientist.&nbsp;</font><br />&#8203;</div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Be Remembered, Not Rated: The Movie-like Life of Professor John Shank]]></title><link><![CDATA[http://www.brianwansink.com/home/be-remembered-not-rated-the-movie-like-life-of-professor-john-shank]]></link><comments><![CDATA[http://www.brianwansink.com/home/be-remembered-not-rated-the-movie-like-life-of-professor-john-shank#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Fri, 17 Apr 2026 18:33:00 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.brianwansink.com/home/be-remembered-not-rated-the-movie-like-life-of-professor-john-shank</guid><description><![CDATA[        	 		 			 				 					 						     					 								 					 						  Last month I was in Columbus giving a talk at Ohio State, and I kept flashing on one of the most amazing professors I never had. &nbsp;He was an OSU PhD alum and he had the office across the hall from me 30 years ago.   					 							 		 	   &#8203;&#8203;There once was a legendary, larger-than-life professor.&nbsp;&nbsp;If Marvel&rsquo;s 137th movie of this year is named UltraProf, it would be based on John Shank.&nbsp;&nbsp;He  [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="http://www.brianwansink.com/uploads/5/5/8/1/55817101/john-shank_orig.jpeg" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div><div class="wsite-multicol"><div class="wsite-multicol-table-wrap" style="margin:0 -15px;"> 	<table class="wsite-multicol-table"> 		<tbody class="wsite-multicol-tbody"> 			<tr class="wsite-multicol-tr"> 				<td class="wsite-multicol-col" style="width:35.314685314685%; padding:0 15px;"> 					 						  <div class="wsite-spacer" style="height:50px;"></div>   					 				</td>				<td class="wsite-multicol-col" style="width:64.685314685315%; padding:0 15px;"> 					 						  <div class="paragraph"><span style="color:rgb(36, 103, 141)">Last month I was in Columbus giving a talk at Ohio State, and I kept flashing on one of the most amazing professors I never had. &nbsp;He was an OSU PhD alum and he had the office across the hall from me 30 years ago.</span></div>   					 				</td>			</tr> 		</tbody> 	</table> </div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph" style="text-align:left;">&#8203;&#8203;There once was a legendary, larger-than-life professor.&nbsp;&nbsp;If Marvel&rsquo;s 137th movie of this year is named UltraProf, it would be based on John Shank.&nbsp;&nbsp;He taught a dry subject (think Accounting), but his charisma and his orchestration of his class made each class session seem like 60-person David Mamet plays.&nbsp;&nbsp;Every class had passion, drama, and some surprising reveal at the end that people still talked about ten &nbsp;years later.&nbsp;&nbsp;Here&rsquo;s a quote:&nbsp;&nbsp;<br />&#8203;<br /><font color="#24678d">&#8203;<em>As a teacher John was at home at any level, and always brilliant. I could offer the testimonials of others, however, what brought his classroom performance home to me&mdash; and it was a performance in the truest sense of the word&mdash;was watching him at an Accounting Round Table at Pitt&rsquo;s business school. He held 50 top financial officers in the palm of his hand while he presented his material. They were busy individuals with many things on their minds and schedules, but not a one left until John had answered their last question. I can assure you that their staying until the end was not out of courtesy</em>&nbsp;(Bernberg 2008).</font><br />&#8203;<br />Some, however, believed he was <em>only</em> about style. He wore Brooks Brothers braces, walked with a MVP swagger, drove a Dartmouth green sports car, and he had a runway model wife who was some VP of Finance somewhere.&nbsp;&nbsp;His office was professionally-decorated with French draperies, super-thick Dartmouth green carpeting, and a massive 18th century French desk which sat in the middle of the room so his desk chair could face the doorway.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Even his two huge perfectly groomed standard poodles (the huge ones) were effortlessly well-mannered.&nbsp;On Saturdays he&rsquo;d come to work, and they&rsquo;d sit on either side of his desk and face the door. &nbsp;They were like poodle lions on either side of a throne, and he was like Odin . . . or some Viking king.&nbsp;&nbsp;His&nbsp;dogs keep eternal vigilance.&nbsp;My&nbsp;dog wets on me and then licks my face like nothing happened.<br /><br />This was 1992.&nbsp;&nbsp;Because John had about the highest MBA teacher ratings at Dartmouth's Tuck School and I had about the lowest ratings, he let me sit in on his classes so I could watch what he did and suck less . . . so I could learn better teaching strategies and MBA-theatre management skills.&nbsp;&nbsp;<br /><br />One Saturday during a Tuck alumni reunion I had been mingling with some of the alums during a breakfast reception. &nbsp;As I was walking back to my office, his door was jarred. &nbsp;I stopped and told him I had just overheard some alumni talking about something they had learned in his class 10 years earlier.&nbsp;<br /><br />He looked up over the top of his half-glasses, and said, &ldquo;That&rsquo;s what they&rsquo;re supposed to do.&nbsp;&nbsp;It means I&rsquo;ve done my job.&rdquo;&nbsp;&nbsp;<br /><br />He had told me before that his goal wasn't to teach students to succeed at their first job, his goal was to teach them to succeed for wherever they will be in 10 or 20 years.&nbsp;&nbsp;Although he got outstanding teaching ratings, he brushed them off by saying that teacher ratings "measured the moment" &ndash; they mainly measured the warm feelings a student had on that last day of class.&nbsp;&nbsp;Ratings might capture style (which he was very good at), but they may not always measure long-term substance.<br /><br />I regret that I never had the presence of mind to ask him how he did it -- how he knew what long-term impact to aim at.&nbsp;&nbsp;Since he was on company Boards of Directors and did a lot of consulting with upper management, I suspect he taught his courses like he was teaching board members and upper management.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;That is, when he was teaching, he treated them like they were high level managers.&nbsp;&nbsp;That would be one way to do it.<br /><br />Ten or fifteen years after I left Dartmouth I was in Boston with an extra day between events. &nbsp;I rented a car to drive the 2 hours north to Hanover, NH to visit John.&nbsp;&nbsp;I wanted to thank him for being so generous, and I also wanted to prove to myself that he, his office, desk, and dogs were as cinematically dramatic as I remembered them and as I would recount them to others.&nbsp;&nbsp;<br /><br />I took the stairs up to the third floor two at a time. &nbsp;Energized and smiling, I took a deep breath as I strode to his door and raised my hand to knock. &nbsp;I froze.<br /><br />There was a different name on his door. I learned&nbsp;<a href="https://aaapubs.org/doi/abs/10.2308/jmar.2008.20.1.17?journalCode=jmar"><span style="color:rgb(220, 161, 13)">I was two years too late</span></a>. &nbsp;John Shank had passed away in&nbsp;<a href="https://www.tuck2000.com/blog/files/4b45a57f2dadc4f2a4860585161596c3-2" target="_blank">2006</a>&nbsp;in a car accident in Southern California.<br /><br />I love the idea of trying to educate for a long-term impact.&nbsp;&nbsp;It&rsquo;s like trying to create long-term memories.&nbsp;&nbsp;I sometimes think I can remember everything John said to me because he was always so intentional with every conversation. &nbsp;Just like he was with his classes.<br />&nbsp;<br />At the next reunion, if his former student&rsquo;s aren&rsquo;t talking about what they learned 30 years ago, they&rsquo;ll be talking about how hard he tried.&nbsp;&nbsp;That itself was a great lesson.&nbsp;</div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA["Any Advice for a Struggling Graduate Student?"]]></title><link><![CDATA[http://www.brianwansink.com/home/phd-struggling-tips-survive-grad-school]]></link><comments><![CDATA[http://www.brianwansink.com/home/phd-struggling-tips-survive-grad-school#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Tue, 31 Mar 2026 15:59:42 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Be More Effective]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.brianwansink.com/home/phd-struggling-tips-survive-grad-school</guid><description><![CDATA[       "My wife is a graduate student and she's really struggling," Larry said the first time I first met him. &nbsp;It was clear he was struggling to help her carry the burden as well.&nbsp;She can't find an advisor, she lost her assistantship this semester, she doesn't have a topic. &nbsp;All she does is work all the time or cry. &nbsp;Do you have any advice for a struggling PhD student?"That was two years ago. &nbsp;Tonight Larry and his wife are taking us out to&nbsp;celebrate her upcoming g [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="http://www.brianwansink.com/uploads/5/5/8/1/55817101/screen-shot-2026-03-31-at-12-12-19-pm_orig.png" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div class="paragraph"><br /><font color="#8d2424"><strong><font size="4">"My wife is a graduate student and she's really struggling," Larry said the first time I first met him. &nbsp;It was clear he was struggling to help her carry the burden as well.&nbsp;<br /><br />She can't find an advisor, she lost her assistantship this semester, she doesn't have a topic. &nbsp;All she does is work all the time or cry. &nbsp;Do you have any advice for a struggling PhD student?"</font></strong></font><br /><br /><font size="4">That was two years ago. &nbsp;Tonight Larry and his wife are taking us out to&nbsp;<span>celebrate her upcoming graduation and job offer.</span>&nbsp;</font><br /></div>  <div class="paragraph"><span><font size="4">Two years ago I had shared four counter-intuitive insights that had personally helped me when I was in a similar situation in my late 20s.</font></span></div>  <h2 class="wsite-content-title"><strong>1. &ldquo;Choose your best friend as your advisor.&rdquo;</strong></h2>  <div class="paragraph"><font size="4"><span>I heard this from a Med School professor friend who then said &ldquo;And choose your older brother to be your second committee member, and choose your favorite uncle to be your third.&rdquo;&nbsp;&nbsp;<br /><br />Some people tend to choose our dissertation committee based on who&rsquo;s "most famous" or most connected in their department. &nbsp;Instead, consider which professors most want you to graduate. [</span><a href="http://www.brianwansink.com/academics-only/how-to-choose-the-best-phd-advisor"><span style="color:rgb(220, 161, 13)">Read more</span></a><span>]&nbsp;</span>&#8203;<br />&#8203;</font></div>  <h2 class="wsite-content-title">2.&nbsp;&#8203;<strong>The &lsquo;P&rsquo; in PhD stands for Perseverance.</strong></h2>  <div class="paragraph"><font size="4"><span>The smartest and most talented people in PhD programs aren&rsquo;t always the ones who graduate. &nbsp;<br /><br />The two most outrageously smartest people in my PhD program both quit the program</span>&#8203; after passing their comprehensive exams but once they started struggling with their dissertation. &nbsp;(They also both went on to become outrageously successful without having graduated, so one might say they knew what they were doing when they left.)</font><br />&#8203;</div>  <h2 class="wsite-content-title"><strong>3. &ldquo;It&rsquo;s an N-period game.&rdquo;</strong></h2>  <div class="paragraph"><span><font size="4">When I had to find a new advisor and defend a new dissertation proposal with four months notice, the game theory economist who gave me this advice was implying that there are a lot of second and third chances in academia as long as you keep swinging.&nbsp;&nbsp;<br /><br />&#8203;Related to this . . .</font><br />&#8203;</span></div>  <h2 class="wsite-content-title"><strong>4. Consider being a Visiting Professor</strong></h2>  <div class="paragraph"><span><font size="4">Suppose don&rsquo;t get a good offer when you graduate from your PhD program (or you get turned down for tenure).&nbsp;&nbsp;If you &ldquo;settle&rdquo; for a tenure-track at a school you&rsquo;re not crazy about, you&rsquo;ll be perceptually anchored to that type of school by both you and by others.&nbsp;&nbsp;<br /><br />&#8203;Instead, by taking a one or two year post as a visiting professor keeps you from getting perceptually anchored to a school you're not crazy about, and it gives you more time to strengthen your vita, and it lets you take another swing at the job marketing in another year or two.</font></span></div>  <div class="paragraph"><font size="4"><br /><span>&#8203;There's lots of advice a person could give, but these were four "counter-intuitive" insights that were real breakthroughs for me. &nbsp;Maybe for Larry's wife too. &nbsp;We might learn about that tonight.</span></font></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why Rituals Make Meals Unforgettable]]></title><link><![CDATA[http://www.brianwansink.com/home/the-hidden-power-of-ritual]]></link><comments><![CDATA[http://www.brianwansink.com/home/the-hidden-power-of-ritual#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Mon, 23 Feb 2026 03:08:12 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.brianwansink.com/home/the-hidden-power-of-ritual</guid><description><![CDATA[                       This past week was Chinese New Year. The buffet was cramped&nbsp;with dumplings, fish, and indescribable things -- each dish with a story going back to dinosaur days in China.Last night, some non-Asian friends crowded into our dining room for the adventure. After blessings, a PowerPoint-style walkthrough of the food, impromptu musical interludes, and some light stretching, we finally ate.My daughter&rsquo;s college friend leaned over and whispered, &ldquo;I love all this r [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="http://www.brianwansink.com/uploads/5/5/8/1/55817101/screen-shot-2026-02-22-at-10-02-13-pm_orig.png" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="http://www.brianwansink.com/uploads/5/5/8/1/55817101/screen-shot-2026-02-22-at-10-02-27-pm_orig.png" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div class="paragraph"></div>  <div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="http://www.brianwansink.com/uploads/5/5/8/1/55817101/screen-shot-2026-02-22-at-9-47-45-pm_orig.png" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div class="paragraph"><font size="5">This past week was Chinese New Year. The buffet was cramped&nbsp;with dumplings, fish, and indescribable things -- each dish with a story going back to dinosaur days in China.</font><br /><br /><font size="5">Last night, some non-Asian friends crowded into our dining room for the adventure. After blessings, a PowerPoint-style walkthrough of the food, impromptu musical interludes, and some light stretching, we finally ate.</font><br /><br /><font size="5">My daughter&rsquo;s college friend leaned over and whispered, &ldquo;I love all this ritual stuff.&rdquo;<br /></font><br /><font size="5">I&rsquo;ve been thinking about that for twenty-four hours. And I realized&mdash;I do too.<br /></font><br /><font size="5">Most dinners -- even Iron Chef-level spread-a-gonzas -- fade from memory pretty quickly. Ritual dinners don&rsquo;t. It isn&rsquo;t about the food; it&rsquo;s about the framework, the repeated gestures that mark time, make meaning.</font><br /><br /><font size="5">I&rsquo;ve been lucky to sit at many Jewish Passover tables. The rituals, the conversation, the engagement&mdash;it leaves you altered in small ways. A little wiser, a little more grounded.</font><br /><br /><font size="5">Anything can become ritual: birthdays, holidays, the weekly Friday night spaghetti, or Sunday lunch at Taco Bell. The trick is simple: declare it, repeat it, give it meaning. Over time, it sticks&mdash;sometimes quietly . . . under the radar, like a Soviet sleeper agent in a Netflix movie.</font><br /><br /><font size="5">After fifteen years of Chinese New Year dinners&mdash;after fifteen years of never cooking, never cleaning, never arriving on time -- there was a girl who missed her sixteenth Chinese year in the US. &nbsp;She was on a Rotary exchange in Argentina.</font><br /><br /><font size="5">Undeterred, she cooked a Chinese New Year dinner for her host family and four friends. It would have been less surprising if she&rsquo;d built a spaceship out of Lego.<br />&#8203;</font><br /><font size="5">Rituals carry an undertow we rarely see. They shape us. They anchor us. And it&rsquo;s never too late to start.</font><br /><br /></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Road to Self-Renewal]]></title><link><![CDATA[http://www.brianwansink.com/home/the-road-to-self-renewal]]></link><comments><![CDATA[http://www.brianwansink.com/home/the-road-to-self-renewal#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Mon, 26 Jan 2026 21:58:50 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.brianwansink.com/home/the-road-to-self-renewal</guid><description><![CDATA[       When I was an anxious graduate student, the faculty all had their offices in a dedicated building. &nbsp;You didn't just drop by. &nbsp;You set up an appointment so you could be anxious about it the whole day. &nbsp;On my advisor's floor, there was an older gentleman at the end of the hall. &nbsp;I greeted him the 2-3 times I saw him. &nbsp;Always very well-dressed and dignified. &nbsp;One time I walked down to check the name on his door: &nbsp;"John W. Gardner." &nbsp;I didn't recognize  [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="http://www.brianwansink.com/uploads/5/5/8/1/55817101/published/john-w-gardner.jpg?1769466623" alt="Picture" style="width:186;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div class="paragraph"><font size="4">When I was an anxious graduate student, the faculty all had their offices in a dedicated building. &nbsp;You didn't just drop by. &nbsp;You set up an appointment so you could be anxious about it the whole day. &nbsp;On my advisor's floor, there was an older gentleman at the end of the hall. &nbsp;I greeted him the 2-3 times I saw him. &nbsp;Always very well-dressed and dignified. &nbsp;One time I walked down to check the name on his door: &nbsp;"John W. Gardner." &nbsp;I didn't recognize it.&nbsp;<br /><br />At the time I had no idea the impact this man had had on the world. &nbsp;I wouldn't know it for six more years.<br /><br />Six years later it was April 1994 and I was an Assistant Professor who was feeling blue because I had just been unexpectedly turned down for tenure. &nbsp;Within a week of this happening, I picked up my mail and I found an alumni magazine. &nbsp;While flipping through it, an article with the title "The Road to Self-renewal" caught my attention. &nbsp;So did the name of the writer: "John W. Gardner."<br /><br />Having just gotten turned down for tenure, I was at a cross-roads. &nbsp;This article resonated with me so strongly, I must have reread it 12 times in the first week the magazine arrived. &nbsp;In the 30+ years since I must have read it 50 times more.<br /><br />While sorting some files last night, I ran across across an underlined and marked-up version of it from long ago. &nbsp;I thought some of you might find it as wise as I found it.&nbsp;</font></div>  <div><div style="margin: 10px 0 0 -10px"> <a title="Download file: The Road to Self-renewal - John W. 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